Part 3: The Decision to Move Forward

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Part 3: The Decision to Move Forward

You’ve made the decision to move your loved one to a residential care facility. But now, you wonder how the Elder will handle the transition. Families often ask:

  • What if he (or she) not only reacts negatively, but refuses to come?
  • What if you know it is the best decision for everyone involved, but you fear it may create hurt feelings, confusion or anger for your loved one?

Let us give you peace of mind

This is our specialty. Rochester Presbyterian Home has been the leading provider of Memory Care since 1992. We understand and anticipate the anxieties commonly experienced by new Elders and their families. Our staff will respond with compassion and flexibility to ease this transition while safeguarding your loved one’s pride and dignity. We carefully evaluate each resident’s reactions every step of the transition, developing a care plan as the move progresses.

Every resident and situation is unique; however, the following guidelines can help create a successful “moving day” for you and your loved one. Don’t introduce the move too soon, or too often. Depending on the level of dementia involved, discussing the impending move may produce confusion and anxiety for your loved one when you broach the subject.

Here are some additional strategies you can and should utilize to ensure the best transition possible:

  • Solicit your physician’s help. Many people accept the professional advice of a physician more easily than the personal opinions of family members
  • Ask your physician to prescribe the move to an assisted living residence based on the individual’s health care needs
  • Ask the physician to discuss the recommendation and the reasons with both you and your loved one present. If your loved one again raises objections to the move, you can refer back to the doctor’s advice
  • Consult your physician regarding appropriate medication
  • Take it step by step and remember, this is an unique process for each family and Elder

At RPH, we often recommend easing the transition from your loved one’s home to our home by introducing our facility and services in stages:

  • Consider bringing your loved one for “just a visit”–enjoy lunch and an activity, then go back home
  • Consider a short term respite stay to give the Elder the opportunity to make the decision about the move
  • Give positive cues. Although people living with dementia may have difficulty interpreting and communicating with words, they tend to be sensitive to emotional cues.

To learn more about RPH, please call Nancy Smyth at 585.509.3987 or e-mail her at [email protected].